This was the best chapter yet for me. Incredibly enlightening! I wish I had read this chapter before I got married...that would have been super helpful! Not only has this been really helpful in understanding "who" my own husband is but super helpful in understanding other women's husbands especially when I'm trying to encourage those other women. God continues to show me that there is so much I have to learn! Very humbling to read this chapter.
I need to go back and read this chapter over again...it's just way too good. How does Debi Pearl know all this? She must of did some studies on men or something. I think that one of the things I really learned from it was that each of the three types of men can have good traits about them even though their weaknesses can seem over powering at times. LOL. or at least they seem overpowering to us women at times. I have had a hard time understanding how certain men I know that are "command men" can have anything good about them until I read this chapter and understood how a command man can be honoring to God in his marriage, work, and life. That gave me hope when it comes to a few friends that I'm trying to encourage them in their marriages. So, all to say, it's helpful to see the weaknesses of each type and also the ways in which those types can each glorify God and use their personalities for the best not the worst.
It was super enlightening, convicting, and comforting to associate my own husband with one of the three types. Suddenly I saw ways over the past 12 (almost 13) years that I've hindered or nagged him...working against his nature rather than being his perfect helpmate. Suddenly I saw how his personality can be good....or how his "man type" is a blessing not only to me but honors God. After reading it I felt like saying "whoops!" after all these years. It not that I intentionally was working against him but in my naiveness I didn't appreciate that part of him and didn't work to compliment it the best that I could. I feel so much more comfortable in my marriage now after reading just that one chapter. Wow. God is amazing. Wow, I'm slightly dumb!
I thought for a long time if I should say on here what "type" my husband is and I've been waiting to see if anyone else posted on this chapter so I could see what they said. I wish I could have been there for the group discussion to hear all the ladies' give input into these different types of men. I trust that it was an incredible discussion! So, I'm wondering, did anyone think about women in light of this chapter? Are there 3 type of women? If there are, I'm the command woman. If you can imagine....command woman married to steady man....ya, that's us. Crazy hard that way. I just never knew that steady man had a name....I've just always called him "obedient soldier"...that's the name my co-worker called her husband who was just like mine. She being married longer had already identified his personality and found that all her nagging in the world couldn't force him to make a quick spur of the moment decision and when everyone else was treating him poorly and injustice in the world was crashing down all around them, he would persevere, serving others as the obedient soldier. Well, I'm super grateful now for my obedient soldier...my steady man. Now I can finally learn to compliment steady man and stop driving him crazy! LOL.
Well, I'd love to hear if the rest of you liked this chapter and if anyone felt enlightened by it! =0)
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