Debi had very sound advice for the wife of the CPA (now dairy farmer.) Each of us in our own situation can fill in the blanks with this statement:
"Learn to really enjoy taking out the trash or milking a cow. You will be amazed at how God will fill you full of himself." -p.97
I have reflected upon this chapter when my husband has shared some of his ideas for the future. When he is thinking out loud, I have to be careful not to say "that will cost so much money to get started..." or "can that truly be successful?" I must try to always be his number one confidant and cheerleader, even when he is not doing something my way.
I am a homegrown Southern California "city" girl. It is sometimes hard for me to imagine more of a country lifestyle. Yet, as it looks right now, that is what the future holds for me. I happen to love warmth and sunshine, and our future state has long, cold winters. If I am to be my husband's helper, I will bundle up and learn to enjoy the snow. If I am to be his helper, I will learn to love the peace and quiet of a simpler way of life.
Chapter 10
Oh, how I desire to be transformed by the renewing of my mind! I try to do this most mornings as I read through some Scripture. I don't want to be the woman who was:
"...storing up in her heart an abundance of selfish thoughts." -p.102
and I really must be careful not to fall into this trap:
"In thinking he is wrong and you are right, you declare yourself wiser than he, more spiritual, more discerning, more sacrificial, etc. All this adds up to the obvious conclusion that you have assumed the role of leadership, teacher, and judge."-p.103
I have mentioned before that I married a Marine. He just left the country for two weeks and sometimes I find myself wishing that he would just check out of his unit and be done with all of it. That is the selfish me talking. When I start to think upon truth then I remember that this is who he is and I love that I married a real man's man. He has also served for 15 years, so if he stays in for just another five years then he will be eligible for a retirement.
The children are also learning to re-train their thinking through this time apart from their father. When he left, they cried. But, what I have been telling them (and it helps me, too) is that there are other American children who have fathers serving for months, or a year, or more- so we need to be grateful that our Marine will be gone for such a short time.
"No woman will ever have peace and joy until her mind is filled with goodwill toward her husband, and she is committed to becoming a good help meet for him." -p.103
Thus, when I kissed him goodbye, he knew that I was supporting him and that I am capable of holding down the fort here on the homefront.
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