Hi Jan,
I'm trying to get caught up! Thanks for holding me accountable. I'm going to start going through this book with one of my counselees and I'm super thrilled about it but she's already mad at the book. LOL! Isn't that great! God is going to move in her heart and I just know it! Thank you for taking the calling to lead this discussion group. I hope that you have a great turn out at your home and I do hope a few more come on here....I'm feeling a bit lonely. Hopefully you can jump back in soon, Jessica, once you are settled a bit. =0) Know you are missed!
Wow, what a great chapter! I don't have much to say other than I wish more women would write on this topic. I've read several books on this topic and they were all written by men! I'm anxious to read the other book the Pearl's wrote called Holy Sex and see what they have to say in more detail. I've counseled women on this topic and it would be great if more writers out there wrote like Debi does about it. I've heard it all....."I just don't like it....", "It doesn't do anything for me", "I don't get anything out of it", "I'll never initiate it...my husband just has to live with that", and so on. It would be nice to have more resources to address these issues and this chapter is a great place to start. I love that Debi makes it clear that women need to do what they can to find a way to make it enjoyable and go into it with joy. Women who struggle with it need to take the initiative to solve their apathy for their husband's sake. The only thing that came to mind that Debi didn't mention directly but more indirectly is that women need to initiate things some of the time. Not just "available" but "initiating". It tells a man that he's worth being pursued. If we think that being available can do magic, initiating it is ten times greater.
Personally it made me really grateful. We started out as a really young couple pretty innocent and without a lot of info on the subject and by submitting to the Lord in our marriage, I believe He's blessed us in this area. The world makes you think that you have to "get educated" on this topic otherwise you won't be successful. I'm encouraged that young couples like us could discover the gift that God created of meeting each other's needs in the bedroom without a bunch of the world's "education". It's amazing what selflessness can do for one's marriage! If we just apply that to our marriage bed it can solve a lot of problems and make things quite enjoyable.
This was a refreshing chapter to read.
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